“I should be better at keeping this laundry up.” Gazes over at the never-ending pile and sighs a heavy sigh.
“I should be taking better care of my self, but I don’t.” She sighs a deep sigh into the phone while we chat.
“I should be enjoying this, but all I have the energy for is napping.”
I should, I should, I should. . .
I had a reoccurring chat like this with a close friend over the past week. We both shared out thoughts and discouragement on what we should be doing to make out lives more, more what exactly when you get down to it?
I find myself going down this tunnel sometimes and I have to actively snap myself out of it.
What should we all be doing exactly and who says we should be doing it?
We, as humans, need to be kinder to ourselves because we can’t all be firing on all cylinders 100% of the time. I listen to my dear friend speak with a heavy voice and I understand her heaviness, because I get there too. However, I listen with open ears and a confused heart, because I see her so differently than she sees herself. I see a person not like the one she describes as herself. I see her as my heart sees her, whole, enough and fantastic in every way.
If only we could all see ourselves the way our biggest fans see us.
I wonder how others see me when I have my lower moments and fall victim to the “I should be…” thoughts. Do they see past my skewed vision of myself and see the light that I sometimes miss? I sure hope so, because sometimes, most times, we are our own worst critics and left alone with only that would be a huge waste of time.
I am all for making healthy, creative, productive changes in life and by no means am I giving away excuses to be a bon-bon eating bump on a log. However, like the quotes says, “Nothing in nature blooms all year-long, so why should you?” We need to be kinder to ourselves when our minds and our bodies are telling us we need to rest or a change it upon us.
This weekend I talked to the kids about what it’s like to listen to our inner selves, curl up with a good book, snuggle Mama for an afternoon rest, drink more water, go for a walk instead of run like mad and how they shouldn’t feel guilty about it. This family quote of the week also goes out to my friend, who really is family now, worried about her blooming, “Nothing in nature blooms all year-long, so why should you?”
*Quote found courtesy of @bodyposipanda on Instagram