raising kindness

My thoughts and emotions are still reeling since last Tuesday and I have tried to make sense of what I see happening across our country this past week, Hell, this past year.

I’m confused, angry, embarrassed, ashamed; but most of all saddened.

I am not going to go into the in’s and out’s of why I feel this way, and I know many may not understand or agree, and that’s fine. However, let me put it this way; I was invested in this election, very much proud of the next chapter in our country’s history and it is a devastating blow to know that my personal values don’t align with the majority of the country. It has been made very clear the values that the majority hold, and it saddens me to see what that entails.

If you know me, I don’t ever discuss politics or hot button topics. I always listen, watch, research and keep my personal point of views close to my heart and within my inner circle. I always respect others with different opinions and never get caught up in the drama that can go along with political discussions.

So why am I bringing it up here?

I am bringing it up here, because as much as I am saddened by the world right now, I am also extremely proud.

I take GREAT PRIDE in the work that I am doing as a mother and a citizen of the world.

I see that I have always been on the right path, the path that aligns with my personal values of humanity and the way I view the world.

I take GREAT PRIDE in the fact that I am making a difference in the world, by the raising of my two beautiful children.


I realize now that the work I do day in and day out as their mother is more important than ever and I will have to work that much harder to help them rise into the future citizens of a world my heart hopes to see.

Wednesday morning, when the kids woke up and asked about the election and their faces looked as shocked as Brett and I’s did that previous evening, I told them the same thing I tell them everyday before we go our separate ways into the world, “I love you and I am so proud of you. Now how are we going to show kindness in our worlds today?

Because it’s true isn’t it? I am lucky, live in a protected California bubble and not much will change for me day-to-day with this new president. However, I can’t shake the sadness in my heart for those that it will change drastically for. If my small, protected view of the world has been shattered and I feel uneasy, I can only imagine what is happening in the in hearts and minds of those not so easily protected.

So I will continue to do what I do everyday, but I will lean in a little further and fight that much harder to make sure the message is clear.

Kindness is what matters, above ALL ELSE.

Luckily, this foundation is already in play in our daily home life and I am extremely proud of that fact and I wanted to share it with you, if it helps you and your family.

Every night either at dinner or before bed, I have been working with the kids on focusing their thoughts and hearts to Kindness and Gratitude. This type of thinking takes time and work, so I made sure to make it part of our daily routine.

I asked them 3 questions everyday:

  1. How were you kind today?
  2. What are you grateful for?
  3. How can you try harder tomorrow?

(I print these questions out and we fill them in during homework or discuss them over dinner. If you would like it as well, you can download it HERE.)

It has been such a blessing to focus on lessons of kindness and gratitude because you can see the change it takes on your children’s attitude, how they interact with each other and the questions that come up when they can’t see to find anything they felt good about in a day.

My brain was so focused on inner pain and struggle for so long, that I was taught to do this personally through journaling. It isn’t always easy, it takes hard work and time, but the benefits are wonderful to your entire psyche. Trust me, I’m living proof.

So I’ll leave you with the same thing I leave the kids with everyday, even on the worst days and especially on the worst days.

And I will continue to do so for the rest of my life…


How did YOU show kindness today in YOUR world?

What are YOU grateful for?

How can we ALL try harder tomorrow?

Now get to work….


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